“If it is a shallow relationship, when it falls apart, the pain will be slight. And the joy that relationship brings each day will also be slight. It is precisely because one can gain the courage to enter into deeper relationships by having confidence in others that the joy of one’s interpersonal relations can grow, […]
Trauma Wounds: Hidden Aggression in Relationships Read More »
When I was putting down the points for today’s blog, I didn’t think an event would come up and plunge me into grief. I was going to analyse the loss suffered in the relationships I wrote about previously. Then, the train attack happened on Monday and it changed everything. I first heard the term ‘Grief
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Psychology is a very interesting subject. I still can’t believe I rejected it for my first degree. What did I know then? We barely had any form of career counselling . Everybody wanted to be everything except a psychologist. And then, life happened and I wanted to understand the human mind a bit more. What
TRAUMA OF ABANDONMENT. Read More »
Someone described anger as ‘unmet expectations’. I thought this definition seemed really apt. I mean, if I expect my husband to show up at 7pm for dinner and he doesn’t, I would be a bit upset, but I would get really angry if he showed up an hour later, without an explanation or an apology.
CHILDHOOD TRAUMA: THE MAKING OF AN ANGRY ADULT Read More »
Does Faith make everything Right? This piece is not about questioning faith, its also not about religion. Its basically me inviting you to take a deeper look into what constitutes true wellbeing. I sat back a week ago thinking about someone I knew and loved so dearly. Her life, while she lived was full of
CAN FAITH HEAL TRAUMA? Read More »
I always silently feel proud of the fact that I can write, it comes naturally, the story line flows from one line of thought to another. So when I decided I would start a blog , I didn’t think it would be such a task. I already had a food blog I had been working
WHEN TRAUMA SWITCHES OFF YOUR BRAIN Read More »
The Yorubas have two types of stews, one that is barely fried and made with vegetable oil and the other called locust bean stew, fried with with palm oil and is a perfect sauce for rice, boiled yam etc. Last week, l was asked to help make the locust beans stew for a wedding and
The Locust Bean Stew: Delicious doesn’t have to smell nice. Read More »
I stopped at Mallam Bello’s place to buy pineapple and behold right in front of me was one of my favourite member of the CITRUS family: Grapefruit I love the fruit, it’s one of my favourite though it requires work to take of the white membrane in between the pulp to enjoy its sweetness. You
GRAPEFRUIT:THERAPY or NOT? Read More »
I am a soup lover, you know the kind of person that would use one spoon of swallow to eat a whole pot of soup. I marvel at people who just put a cooking spoon of soup on their plate of swallow, how does the swallow even move? Anyway, I decided this week to try
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