And the last Friday of the month of May is here. Time flies by so quickly, it feels like there is something chasing the months, but then the clock still works the same way it has always done, which means the world has become a beehive of activities and while we struggle to wade through one challenge, another comes up and when we manage to pop our heads to see what is happening, we realise it’s a new day.
There really is no better time to be mindful than now.
The month of May featured so many activities promoting positive mental health. The awareness doesn’t end with this month, it goes on, until every last person can understand that the mind when nurtured and valued gives the body the power to take a person to great heights of a fulfilled life.
Through the month of May , I wrote about the dark Triad and one poignant fact that can’t be denied is the fact that whatever psychological defects or neurological deficits that may be responsible for triad traits like disagreeableness, low empathy, selfishness, duplicity, competitiveness and manipulativeness have their roots in the emptiness that comes from lack of love or a love that is twisted and manipulated.
I can only imagine the depth of loneliness that might thrive deep in the souls of those who manifest these traits. A growing number of studies have tried to review the traits based on dimensions. The dimensional approach is particularly useful when assessing the level of affect. These studies have shown that there are variants of each of the traids that show opposing relationships with emotionality.
A psychopath for example is described in some quarters as one totally devoid of any emotions, incapable of feeling remorse or regret or shame. This strikes deep , especially if considering the foundation of most religions in the world that believe that Man was created out of love and was created to love.
Invariably, where love is replaced by a desire to oppress, hurt, devalue or destroy another, the void it leaves only gets bigger with each act of evil done. What a loss that must be.
When we grieve we do so because we have lost something valuable. Death is the biggest loss no doubt, and as Jaharvi puts it, “we grieve because we love. How lucky we are to have experienced that love.”
I am not saying that those with dark triad traits do not love, I only feel that they would have loved so much more and would have enjoyed so much beautiful love and joy from the ones who shared their paths in life.